"Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end", or so the lyrics go. 2016 gives way to 2017, the maiden becomes a mother, the baby; a child. It's all transitory. And yet how much do we hold on?
We can often think we are ready to let go of 'what no longer serves us' but until we recognise the lessons, and the benefits to any experience we label as bad or wrong, it will show up somewhere else in our life to work through. So we are in fact, holding on, albeit unconsciously.
We don't simply get a 'clean slate' just because it's a New Year, that's why the concept of 'New Year, New You' is so flawed. Sorry to burst the bubble. What IS possible is understanding the mirror the world, and the people around you, are offering you for your own growth, and propelling yourself forward into the best version of you, from a place of love and gratitude, not loathing and self-flagellation, or blaming circumstances or everyone else for your own unhappiness.
It begins and ends with us. Our attitude is the difference between an ordeal or an adventure.
True change and transformation comes from shifting beliefs and perceptions (the inner work) and taking action (practical steps and new behaviours).
If you want 2017 to be your best year yet, it's completely, wholeheartedly, unreservedly up to YOU. The quality of your life is determined by the quality of the questions you ask yourself. These are what determine your perceptions, which are what see's you wake up each day viewing your life full of opportunity and potential, or like groundhog day.
So, how are you feeling about 2016?
Is there anything you are looking back on, thinking you made a mistake?
> Ask yourself the benefits you experienced from it, and what the drawbacks would be if it didn't happen.
What are you feeling guilty or shameful about?
> How did it serve you or the person you are feeling guilty or shameful toward? If your answer is, 'what do you mean, it was wrong, they got no benefits' then you need to go deeper. Keep looking. Things happen that we tend to label as bad or wrong, but months, years, decades later we find the wisdom and the blessings. This is your invitation not to wait that long. So keep asking the questions...
Do you feel like you didn't step up enough, or give it your best?
> We are always living according to our own highest values. So in what area of your life were you "giving it your all"? When you realise this, you will no longer judge yourself, recognising you were simply honouring what was most important to you at the time. Still not convinced? Who are you comparing yourself to then? "Comparison is the thief of joy" as the Buddha said...
When you ask yourself the quality questions, you can take the gifts, the lessons and the learnings from 2016, seeing how it assisted you in your own growth.
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Bridget Wood is Co-Founder of Nourishing The Mother and a lover of life and connecting people to themselves through wisdom, introspection and quality questions. Bridget is also the Director and Events Manager of Suburban Sandcastles. With an insatiable appetite for knowledge and a desire to understand the bigger picture of human behaviour and how the world works, Bridget is on an inspired path to learn more deeply who we are beyond the limitations that we, and our society and culture, place upon us.