By Bridget Wood
Everyone has an addiction of some kind, some are just more socially acceptable than others. So what’s it for you - Coffee? The daily banana & raw cacao smoothie? (guilty) or is it that you constantly find yourself, phone or device in hand, scrolling mindlessly through Facebook or Instagram glancing at other people’s foibles, tropical holidays and perfect lives?
Because if there’s one surefire way to feel bad about yourself, that’s it in a nutshell. The Buddha said ‘Comparison is the thief of joy’; we know this intuitively, so why do we do it?
Dopamine. The neurotransmitter that helps us fall in love, enjoy delicious food and bask in pleasure, can also fuel our addictions to these things, and Facebook knows it. New notifications and messages, when we’re ‘hooked’, see the reward centres in our brain light up like Christmas, and so we go back again and again for our next ‘hit’.
But all this is really distraction. An indulgence of our animal-minded behaviours that prevent us from seeing the light of our own soul. That see us consuming media and reacting to information, instead of creating the media and products and being the information.
If you’ve ever laid in Savasana (corpse pose, in yoga) you will know how much noise goes on in your brain, and how the practice of yoga helps to reign it in. To help us govern ourselves. To focus the mind.
Because our mind controls everything.
It’s never what happens to us, it’s how we perceive it. It’s the values, beliefs, and subordinations we have to others that determine how we feel in any given moment.
The great poet and mystic Rumi once said, ‘Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise so I am changing myself’.
This is because our outer world is a reflection of our inner world.
The question then, why the compulsive social media habit? What am I seeking by scrolling in this moment? What uncomfortable feelings am I trying to avoid? Who am I comparing myself to – what do I perceive that they have that I don’t?
Because the quality of our life is determined by the quality of the questions we ask ourselves. Freedom is a perception flip away.
This is what Rumi meant when he said “Why do you stay in prison, when the door is so wide open?”
The yoga mat is one way to come home to yourself, but it can also be a lonely place.
Our vision is to create a tribe of women we can’t wait to hang around with - who are willing to embrace all parts of themselves, see the mirror their world offers, awaken their feminine, and step into their magnificence. And It’s happening.
We’ve opened up our Loathing To Loving Program for lifetime access for a one-off $249 if you would like to be part of the movement.
Bridget Wood is Co-Founder of Nourishing The Mother and a lover of life and connecting people to themselves through wisdom, introspection and quality questions. Bridget is also the Director and Events Manager of Suburban Sandcastles. With an insatiable appetite for knowledge and a desire to understand the bigger picture of human behaviour and how the world works, Bridget is on an inspired path to learn more deeply who we are beyond the limitations that we, and our society and culture, place upon upon us.