When I met my now husband, he was still picking up the pieces of a pretty messy split with his ex-girlfriend. He, and by extension, we, kept the house. So at 19, I had the very real responsibility of working to help pay off a mortgage, at the same time putting myself through University.
Like many stages I tend to find myself in, I looked around at my peers and I didn't know where I fit. Working only to blow my money on nightclubs, fast food, clothes and travel wasn't possible and so I didn't last long in my efforts to keep up with my friends.
In my spare time I read 'Mortgage free in four easy steps', renovated our home and nurtured the security of my relationship and the future I was building. It was as satisfying as it was isolating, but at least I was honouring me.
Because that's what it takes sometimes, doesn't it, to honour your own path? Recognise where your interests and values diverge from those closest to you, and choose that path anyway?
Chasing instant gratification is easy. It feels fun, it's exciting, it's a thrill. However when we do this we indulge only our senses, the animal side of ourselves - and fulfilling the desires of only our senses will never satisfy our soul; we know this intuitively.
To listen to the whisperings of our soul, means bringing to light what we want to create that is uniquely our own. For me, building wealth represents freedom from the constraints of what i'm told I 'have to do' by mainstream society.
I don't want to work in a cubicle office for the next 30 years at a job i'm uninspired by, in order to earn money to buy stuff I don't need, to please people I don't particularly like.
I don't want to tell my kids they can be anything they want to be, and realise their dreams, but leave mine parked on a shelf, gathering dust.
I don't want to spend my life acquiring things and a sense of status to fill a void that still ultimately leaves me empty (and penniless) in old age.
What I do want.....
Is to feel inspired to get up everyday and recognise the gifts and opportunities in just being me, and working out how to serve the world in my unique way.
Is to be able to dive into my wounds and voids and shake that shit up so i'm not trapped by it.
Is to have the financial abundance to travel, educate myself and my family, and nourish our bodies and minds, free of the pressure and compulsion to consume from a place of feeling 'less than', if I don't have all those things.
SO WHAT'S IN THE WAY?
Beliefs. Tired, outdated beliefs that I've used in an expert way, to keep myself safe. You know those ones? They serve you, until you no longer need them anymore.
You see, 2017 is going to be the year that I say no to my six-figure, comfortable, corporate job in financial services.
It's the year that I create more than I ever have before, in order to serve more people. It's the year that I get out of my own way.
Removing the money blocks, shifting the belief patterns, and examining my values, are all the steps that will lead to this.
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Bridget Wood is Co-Founder of Nourishing The Mother and a lover of life and connecting people to themselves through wisdom, introspection and quality questions. Bridget is also the Director and Events Manager of Suburban Sandcastles. With an insatiable appetite for knowledge and a desire to understand the bigger picture of human behaviour and how the world works, Bridget is on an inspired path to learn more deeply who we are beyond the limitations that we, and our society and culture, place upon upon us.