The baby clothes are all washed and folded, nappies stocked up high, the room prepared, and now there is...waiting. In between worlds. Body heavy, perhaps emotions feeling the same; oscillations between excitement, fear, anticipation, resistance, joy, sadness and everything in between.
On the precipice of transformation, of shedding identities, and creating new ones.
Her body calling her inwards, primal wisdom from the ages compelling a woman deeply inside herself to face herself. For many, that can be a lonely and scary place.
In a culture where birth is a process to be managed, not a transcendent moment in a woman's journey of self, to be honoured and revered and nurtured, we often need to remind ourselves to tune into what the mothers-in-waiting around us really need.
Be her tribe, create reverence, hold her space
We all have people around us who love us, but the people who we can bare our deepest, darkest selves to, without judgement, are golden. Be her safe place. Create the space to hear her. Make safe all the big feelings. Offer empathy, not solutions.
This comes in the forms of cups of tea, flowers 'just because', lingering in a hug just a little bit longer, text messages that let her know she's in your heart, pre-prepared meals, gentle advice where it's welcomed.
When the baby arrives, it looks like folding washing, bringing meals, listening, cuddling her babe while she lingers a little bit longer in the shower, taking older kids for a play date.
This is the fabric of the village, of creating a tribe.
Do it for yourself, do it for your friend, your sister-in-law, or the mum at school.
Honour the goddess within, and pave the way for a family life of connection and reverence.
Bridget Wood is Co-Founder of Nourishing The Mother and a lover of life and connecting people to themselves through wisdom, introspection and quality questions. Bridget is also the Director and Events Manager of Suburban Sandcastles. With an insatiable appetite for knowledge and a desire to understand the bigger picture of human behaviour and how the world works, Bridget is on an inspired path to learn more deeply who we are beyond the limitations that we, and our society and culture, place upon upon us.