Self worth. We could all spend a lifetime trying to work out the secret to deep, integrated worth and still never quite attain a universal solution.
The reason for this is that each of our recipes are slightly different and our paths to acknowledging ourselves vast. There is no one size fits all approach.
We all want more. More self value, less comparison. More awareness, less judgement. More compassion, less critic. More self belief, less self flagellation. More body love, less body punishment.
And we want it for our kids.
We want our daughters to go live the life they imagine, unencumbered by our self doubt and resignation.
We want our sons to be fully seen in this world, unrestrained from our apprehension and doubt.
The only universal truth here is that what we embody, they seek to repeat or repair.
You know this because everything that was 'good' you seek to replicate in your own life. Everything that was 'broken' you seek to undo or do the opposite of; we're all healing an inner child and not because anyone told us to, because we have an innate driver to be whole.
The 'good' informs us as much as the 'broken'. We pursue a life, full of choices, based on their very presence. Whatever you perceive to be missing in your childhood, your family dynamic, your parents relationships creates a void, a gaping black hole of a wound that is constantly seeking to be filled and like a black hole, it sucks everything into it that looks like contains some sort of panacea; we filter our world and the daily barrage of information, specifically (though unconsciously) seeking for 'things', dynamics, relationships, experiences and meanings to fill it.
Enter life purpose and your hidden genius.
So there IS method in the madness.
For me, it also highlights that we can wish whatever we want for our children all we like but ultimately 'their fate is sealed' by what we DO and embody for ourselves.
If they don't see it, they can't replicate it.
The self worth we wish to foster in our children is as much what we do to and for them as it what we do to and for ourselves.
The self worth we foster in our children influences every relationship they will ever have, including the level of intimacy they move towards.
So are you taking the time to parent yourself consciously?
Aligned Parenting is about the dynamic mix of consciously parenting our children (and equipping ourselves with a toolkit to do this) as much as it about what to do with ourselves to heal our own wounds and triggers so we can show up for them with a 'clean slate', as unhampered by our own judgements as possible.
Julie Tenner is Co-founder of Nourishing The Mother and is The Pleasure Nutritionist. Julie is a Naturopath, specialising in women’s and children's health, with specific focus on awakening women to their full potential – health for the mind, body and soul – creating lasting life change for you and your family by “coming home” to your magnificence.