School has wrapped up for my kids and each year I select a spectrum of work from that year to go into a ‘school album’ that I scrapbook for each of them. It’s actually one of my favourite end-of-year-activities; to sit down with a coffee and wade in the nostalgia, awe and love that filters through their work.
As I go through all the workbooks they bring home, I’m struck once again by the profoundness of the gift and responsibility that raising young humans is. I think we often lose touch with just how incredible it is, and what an impact we have on their lives.
Once our kids are at school, it can seem as though they’re ‘away’ more than they’re ‘with you’ and therefore that school is largely responsible for their growth and development. But any teacher will tell you; it’s what comes from home that has the biggest impact. It is this that hits me as I read through my children’s books.
We can spend so much time with our little (and big) ones that we often are too ‘blinded’ to really see who they are becoming.
We can get stuck in monotony and think we’re making little difference, question why we spend so much time invested in finding answers, showing up even when we don’t’ feel like it and caring so deeply about the way we respond….
And then, there it is….those little pieces of ‘us’, the glimpses of deep wisdom and understanding, our legacy and impact on these developing humans and it breaks my heart open and floods my eyes with tears of gratitude.
Perhaps you don’t have school aged children, or perhaps you do, but either way I really encourage you to keep going, because IT DOES MATTER. What you do and how you do it, matters. Even when you think you’re having no impact or you’re stuck in a rut, I promise you, there is always growth and learning and I also promise you, one day you’ll look back, perhaps as you scroll your own child’s school books, and see ‘you’ and all the love that you’ve poured into this little soul and you’ll be flooded with “it’s all worth it”, just like me.
With this in mind I thought I’d share some pearls with you from the workbooks of my eldest two, which might just connect you to the amazingly important work you're doing in raising the next generation...
When you give up you let yourself down and lose faith and hope in yourself. You look at things differently than before. You don’t reach your goal. You take your anger and frustration out on someone else. You don’t think about how special you are and how lucky you are!!
There are 4 steps to mending a broken relationships:
1. We admit we did something wrong
2. We say sorry to the people we have hurt
3. We are forgiven
4. We make up for it by doing something good
Dear lord, please help me to remember we are not always right. Please help me struggle with things we are not good at and have persistence to keep on going.
If I have a problem in the playground I can….
· Say to yourself “keep calm”. Just relax and take it easy.
· Avoid blaming the other person
· Get back to problem solving
· Take a few deep breaths
· Talk in a calm voice
Without compassion the world would be a dark dark place. We would have World War 3, 4, 5, 6 and 7 very soon. Compassion is the reason you’re alive, its’ the reason the human race is still alive and it’s the reason our world is here.
My dad practices what he preaches by listening to everyone and showing mercy and compassion. For instance, whenever he is a role-model he expects the same back.
Remember to celebrate the ‘small wins’ because they will create the big ones and take a second to breathe in the love you’ve created and be inspired by the wisdom of the souls you’re blessed to be around.
Julie Tenner is Co-founder of Nourishing The Mother and is The Pleasure Nutritionist. Julie is a Naturopath, specialising in women’s and children's health, with specific focus on awakening women to their full potential – health for the mind, body and soul – creating lasting life change for you and your family by “coming home” to your magnificence.