So today I took my kids out on “Jail Break!” – a term named by my son for our once-a-term day together where we break from routine just to spend time together.
It’s a mini love-bomb, which if you’re not familiar with this term you should definitely listen to our podcast Love Bombing with Bree Downes.
Ultimately what this refers to is some intense, focused, child-led time together where you are all drenched in a hormone love-cocktail and come back into balance together.
You see, our week nights and weekends are filled with sport so we rarely manage more than a few hours hanging out and to be honest, because we’re so busy, the time we have together at home is often spent getting on top of the house or ‘doing jobs’, so this day has evolved into something we all look forward to…
One day last year, I took my kids out of school and into the city to meet my mum and go to “Artvo” – this was out of necessity because our weekends were so full we couldn’t coordinate a time to go!
It turned out to be super special. Everyone was on a high because it was so ‘rebellious’, the activities we chose were far less busy than a weekend and we felt no looming time pressure to be anywhere by any given time. It was divine. Idyllic one might say – the kids all got on, I felt relaxed and spacious and we were all able to bathe in each others gloriousness.
So. We were not content to leave it there, on the trip home we discussed how we could ‘repeat’ this experience and make it part of our family tradition. After much negotiation, we settled on one day per school term I would bust the kids out of school and we would spend time with each other.
The only rule is, whatever activity we do has to be suited to everyone; which is not as easy as it sounds given the age difference of my kids. We spend all term discussing our options of what we’ll do and where we’ll go. There are so many skills involved in these discussions and negotiations alone that I consider it worthwhile! Not to mention the day itself.
So today was Jail Break and again, it was wonderful!
It’s like my kids wake up ready to be ‘together’ in every sense of the word – my son got my daughter dressed after I was exasperated with the many outfit changes. My daughter filled up everyone’s drink bottles. Everyone speaks kindly to each other and that’s before we’ve even left the house!
The whole day was planned around the ‘highlight’ activity; which today was eating ice cream at “Scroll” – a cool new boutique ice cream shop that makes the ice cream from scratch in front of you, with add-ins, on a cold stone and rolls it into scrolls.
So we started our day with jumping at Gravity Zone, a trampoline extravaganza, which we largely had completely to ourselves! Then we went to Scroll for our ice cream, browsed my eldest two’s favourite shops – House of Hoops and Smiggle. Followed by lunch with dad at Fonda, a super hip and delicious Mexican restaurant, before heading home to organise dinner, out to extra-curriculars and a swim at the beach.
All child-led. All delicious experiences I can relish along with my kids.
All round cup-filling, love-intoxicating hours spent together equals a beautiful home vibe and loving interactions between us all.
We are all delighted with what has now become a family tradition and what I hope will lend into many, many, happy memories they take away with them.
So blow off the establishment, sometimes it’s just worth it. What my children learn from a day out of school like this is more than they could learn from a single day in school and we all leave our day behind feeling back in step with one another and back in flow with our joy.
I’d highly recommend you give a mini love-bomb a go!
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Julie Tenner is Co-founder of Nourishing The Mother and is The Pleasure Nutritionist. Julie is a Naturopath, specialising in women’s and children's health, with specific focus on awakening women to their full potential – health for the mind, body and soul – creating lasting life change for you and your family by “coming home” to your magnificence.