As I count down to birth, I'm preparing what I need in my birth space. Music is top of my list! Music has the ability to connect us to what we are deeply feeling, to our heart and our body. Music is a portal to higher consciousness and to memory.
So why wouldn't you plan it out and use it to the best of its ability in YOUR birth??!
When designing a playlist for birth, the advice I give all my clients is this:
- Have more than one playlist!
- You need the meditation / Om music when you're ready to go deeply inward, but sometimes birth requires MORE energy and music is a great way to bring it back into your body and into the room! So....
- Have a playlist that brings you energy!! If your labour is long, if its stalled, if its slowed, if what you've been doing for hours is no longer working; you need to change the energy and what your heart and body are doing! So create a playlist to call on at these times...
You know when you've been out all night dancing, or at a wedding, and your feet are killing you and you're tired, and you just want to go home...and then THAT song comes on and you're back on the dance floor carving it up?! These are the songs that belong on your energy playlist. Songs that you can't stop yourself from moving to. Songs that MAKE you want to wiggle your hips and giggle. Songs that make you want to sing. These are the ONLY songs allowed in this playlist.
- Have a playlist of songs that make your heart sing, that make you weep, that connect you to memories you adore and people you love. Sometimes in birth we need to 'open up' again, get back into the love-cocktail being created and remember why our hearts and souls throb for this baby. These are the songs for this playlist.
So with this in mind, I thought I'd share with you what was on my birth playlists and why...
Birth Energy Playlist
I’d Do Anything for Love – Meat Loaf - it reminds me of being playful with my husband (he hates it)
That’s the Way Love Goes – Janet Jackson - it reminds me of my curves
Rockabye (feat. Sean Paul & Anne-Marie) - it's a fun beat and I have memories of singing along to it in the car with the kids
Fortunate Son – Creedence - reminds me of my dad, I can still 'see him' clicking and clacking along to it
Bad Moon Rising – Creedence - reminds me of my husband (he loves Creedence)
Bibia Be Ye Ye – Ed Sheeran - my son loves it, so I have many oxytocin-fuelled memories of dancing to it with him in our house or in the car, I see his smile in my mind
Little Bitty Pretty One – Thurston Harris - reminds me of my youngest daughter who loves to bop and hum along, it reminds me of the sensuality that is innate in all of us
Brown Eyed Girl – Van Morrison - I loved this song growing up and it reminds me of being in love
Fast Love – George Michael - Good 'ol Georgie, all of his songs remind me of being a teenager, being free and in love and full of blossoming possibility
Faith – George Michael
Fantasy – Mariah Carey - makes me giggle, I often play "it's dishes or Mariah" with my son...he rolls his eyes and picks dishes every time...hehehe
Shoop – Salt-n-Pepa - reminds me of my sister, we used to 'jam' to this as kids
Pony – Ginuwine - reminds me of Magic Mike and the funniest, most ridiculous weekend away with my tribe of school mums
Everybody – Backstreet Boys - reminds me of growing up in England and being obsessed with Backstreet Boys, plus it makes me giggle with "am I sexual?" my son 'can't handle it' and I take great pleasure in hamming it up with him
Billie Jean – Michael Jackson - so many parties, so much fun
The Way You Make Me Feel – Michael Jackson - reminds me of my husband
Smooth Criminal – Michael Jackson - funky-as beat I can't help but move to and my son loves it
Cosby Sweater – Hiltop Hoods - reminds me of dance parties in my house with my family
Run This Town (feat. Rihanna & Kayne West) - loved this song growing up
Valerie – Mark Ronson - makes me want to move and be feminine
Shape of You – Ed Sheeran - same as above
Castle on the Hill – Ed Sheeran - reminds me of the gloriousness of growing up, leaving home and returning
Try Again – Aaliyah - makes me want to move my hips
Me Too – Meghan Trainor - reminds me of my eldest daughter and dancing away together
Cecilia – Simon and Garfunkel - reminds me of a time my husband and I took a car trip before kids
Birth Heart Open Playlist
As opposed to the above playlist where I can attach specific memory to each of the songs, the songs in this playlist all connect with a different feeling of love or gratitude. I've wept to many of these songs, some remind me of people passed away, some of those I hold dear now and some that just speak to me of the profound nature of love.
As the rush comes – Gabriel and Dresden Chillout Mix
Reconsider – Jamie xx Edit
Supermarket Flowers – Ed Sheeran
Better – Regina Spektor
I Will Always Love You – Whitney Houston
Halo – Rarities
Unchained Melody (feat. Martha Marlow) – Michael Yezerski
Papi Pacify – FKA twigs
Sadness – Enigma
Little Lover – Broadhurst
Like a Prayer – Maya Solovey
Why Don’t You Do Right – Carolina Chocolate Drops
Little Little – Jenny Morris
To Build a Home – The Cinematic Orchestra
Breathe in Now – George
Tiny Dancer – Elton John
Video Games – Lana Del Rey
Young and Beautiful – Lana Del Rey
Hallelujah – Jeff Buckley
Take Me to Church – Hozier
Over the Rainbow – Israel Kaamakawiwo’ole
Lullaby – Dixie Chicks
Killing Me Softly With His Song – Fugees
I Will Wait For You – Us
Don’t Worry, Be Happy – Bobby McFerrin
So, that's my list. Yours will look completely different, but its important you think just as seriously about it and create the time and space to, well, create it. The work you put in now to you birth will pay off in dividends at your birth.
Julie Tenner is Co-founder of Nourishing The Mother and is The Pleasure Nutritionist. Julie is a Naturopath, specialising in women’s and children's health, with specific focus on awakening women to their full potential – health for the mind, body and soul – creating lasting life change for you and your family by “coming home” to your magnificence.