“…I wait out the storm. Eventually she begins to soften, her angry-tears turn into heart-broken sobs. This is another transition, the one of releasing anger and connecting to the pain underneath. I respect this place and it softens me also.
I check my posture; is it open and receptive? Am I grounded in my heart-space?
I see a soft blanket flung on the floor in front of me, I stroke it. “I wonder if you’d like to lie here and listen to the story of the day you were born while I stroke your hair?”
Her pupils dilate, her body shifts towards me, but she’s not quite ready to move on my terms…”
"...We can help our children learn feelings, empathy and how to grow through these challenges. We don’t need to fix it, change it, or have the answer – so breathe, relax your body, relax your mind – you don’t have the pressure of finding the solution, only of listening to how you are feeling, holding space for the same feeling within them and showing them the way back to balance THROUGH this emotion...."
"...Our children’s behaviour is never separate from our own. Even my raging 3 year old. What part of me is raging and feeling unheard? What part of me is fed up and wants some attention on my terms? Where am I stuffing down my feelings instead of expressing them? Where am I denying my anger? Why did the judgement of a 14 year old girl I don’t know and likely will never see again, sting?..."